SELF DOUBT

We all face challenges in life and in order to succeed and live a fulfilling and happy life, self doubt is one of the biggest challenges we have to overcome.  It comes up frequently when I am coaching.

We have both good and bad experiences, however it is common for us to connect those experiences which can support our beliefs about ourselves.

Somehow, our minds tend to engage in self-analysis. (Not bad coming from an analyst by trade) this can lead to all sorts of problems as we travel through life, setting us up not to succeed.

It occurs in all sorts of circumstances, we could be making our way in a career, engaging in relationships with others, and many other scenarios.

Of course, each new transaction with someone else presents exciting new opportunities.  Each one unique and unconnected.  Yet we still expect to fail.  Because we failed previously.   Yet still these events are unconnected.

So remember next time an opportunity presents itself that this is the first time.  You do not have a history of failure and there are no reasons why you shouldn't succeed.

Remember the expression:

"Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift which is why it is called the present" - unknown

and get stuck in - thousands of people are succeeding everyday, why shouldn't you?

What's your tonic?

If you're reading my blog - there is a good chance that you know I've trained in coaching and have an interest in Health.

I'm bringing these 2 elements together as part of my plan. I want to help people who currently struggle to get their heads around this whole diet/exercise merry-go-round on which so many of us spend so much time.

I truly believe that what is good for the body only help the mind and visa-versa and having come back from a week's walking in  I can only once again re-reinforce that feeling of a real high that I get from walking, particularly in the Lakes, walking 45 miles in a week and getting above 800m in height 3 days out of 7. That might seem a bit extreme for some, although we can all find our own ways to get these little tonics in life.

How do you get yours?

Over the Moon

My last two posts have seemed to be a little bit of a moan. So I'd like to focus on what's going well at the moment.

Firstly Hubby has been putting some effort in on the groundwork to his photographic business. He's had some really good publicity lately and sold 4-5 prints yesterday.

My coaching website is up and running and looks great. The feedback has been brilliant. I'm sorry I can't share this with you due to the anonymous nature of my blog.

Despite my boss telling me my job was moving in April, I'm still here - at least for the time being.

I've started a new sideline. The coaching business will take a while to establish and if I take redundancy I will need a quicker source of income and quite frankly I don't want to go straight back into employment. I've decided to cater for our furry friends and make home made dog biscuits. Its a sideline that I can manage a day a week and it won't interfere in building up my coaching business. I've already sold some on Ebay AND had an enquiry from a pet shop so it seems I'm in business.

I joined a local coaching circle, so i can have a good catch up with some fellow coaches on a regular basis.

I've joined a local therapists group. They meet by monthly and have charity events which will be a great way for me to network.

I've sorted my action plans. To be frank my office was a bit of a mess and I've tackled it and all outstanding items are firmly embedded in Excel.

I feel fab!

Envy in Coaching Part 2

Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self worth. Each of us has something to give that no one else has.





So back in December I lost a friend because she can't handle some business competition. Its a sad loss and I also lost my coach. Its May now and I've started to accept it. I see her at the gym and we exchange the normal pleasantries, and then when I was least expecting it, during an appointment with my beautician, she tells me that my business cards have gone missing and being replaced my another coaches' business cards. When I looked they were the cards of my coach. We're not sure whether they were swapped by my coach or her beautician as a favour and I can't prove anything, but I have my suspicions and I am learning to trust my instincts.

It has made me angry and I am feeling emotions that I don't want to feel.

I've not removed her cards. I wouldn't stoop to that level. I want to confront her, but not only do I have no proof, I am concerned this will just escalate the situation.

It has of course made me all the more determined to succeed.

Envy in Coaching

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings

instead of your own

Some time ago, I mentioned my own Coach. Most coaches have their own coach. Mine was a catalyst in me making the decision to set up a coaching practice. I couldn't have praised her high enough at the time.

Yet, she very suddenly lost interest in me when I undertook my coaching training. She started cancelling lunch dates and paranoia kicked in. Hubby tried to convince me there was nothing in it.

After a string of broken lunch meetings, I took what I would consider the cowards approach. I wanted the conversation to be face to face but this was proving impossible. SO I sent her a very nicely worded email. Her reply confirmed my worst fears. We live in a small town and she didn't like the idea of a coach setting up along side her.

I found this a bit hard to swallow. I've found that every other coach that I have come across has wanted to help/support and share. I'd got visions of joint projects and specialism referrals particularly as she is NLP trained and I am not.

It is of course her choice to do so and I have accepted it. I believe she is very insecure.  Strangely I envy her position in that she is ahead of me in setting up her business, and has not had to pay for her own coach training.  Perhaps I value my training more because I have funded it. 

This all took place in December and I accepted it until now.....

Achievement in a Year

Realising that my blog is now well over 12 months old has made me think back about what I've been up to in the last year.

Here goes:

• I turned 40.
• I made the decision to become a life coach
• I found a great coaching course
• I passed a live assessment
• I made a great new friend
• I've launched a holding page for my email
• I've registered my business with the tax man
• I've dealt with 3 challenging individuals
• I've blogged on average twice a week for a year
• I've chosen a business name
• I've read books!

And I'm about to launch my Coaching website - wow - what a 12 months its been.

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New Website

Once again I find myself having to apologise for being a bit neglectful of my blog. Its not that I'm bored of it, its just that I'm having to do so much else.

The good news is that I know have web pages written and ready to go to support my new coaching practice. I just need to pass them onto my talented husband who will turn them into a website.