Sunday, 29 May 2011

Envy in Coaching Part 2

Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self worth. Each of us has something to give that no one else has.

So back in December I lost a friend because she can't handle some business competition. Its a sad loss and I also lost my coach. Its May now and I've started to accept it. I see her at the gym and we exchange the normal pleasantries, and then when I was least expecting it, during an appointment with my beautician, she tells me that my business cards have gone missing and being replaced my another coaches' business cards. When I looked they were the cards of my coach. We're not sure whether they were swapped by my coach or her beautician as a favour and I can't prove anything, but I have my suspicions and I am learning to trust my instincts.

It has made me angry and I am feeling emotions that I don't want to feel.

I've not removed her cards. I wouldn't stoop to that level. I want to confront her, but not only do I have no proof, I am concerned this will just escalate the situation.

It has of course made me all the more determined to succeed.

Sunday, 22 May 2011

Envy in Coaching

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings

instead of your own

Some time ago, I mentioned my own Coach. Most coaches have their own coach. Mine was a catalyst in me making the decision to set up a coaching practice. I couldn't have praised her high enough at the time.

Yet, she very suddenly lost interest in me when I undertook my coaching training. She started cancelling lunch dates and paranoia kicked in. Hubby tried to convince me there was nothing in it.

After a string of broken lunch meetings, I took what I would consider the cowards approach. I wanted the conversation to be face to face but this was proving impossible. SO I sent her a very nicely worded email. Her reply confirmed my worst fears. We live in a small town and she didn't like the idea of a coach setting up along side her.

I found this a bit hard to swallow. I've found that every other coach that I have come across has wanted to help/support and share. I'd got visions of joint projects and specialism referrals particularly as she is NLP trained and I am not.

It is of course her choice to do so and I have accepted it. I believe she is very insecure.  Strangely I envy her position in that she is ahead of me in setting up her business, and has not had to pay for her own coach training.  Perhaps I value my training more because I have funded it. 

This all took place in December and I accepted it until now.....

Sunday, 15 May 2011

Achievement in a Year

Realising that my blog is now well over 12 months old has made me think back about what I've been up to in the last year.

Here goes:

  • I turned 40.
  • I made the decision to become a life coach
  • I found a great coaching course
  • I passed a live assessment
  • I made a great new friend
  • I've launched a holding page for my email
  • I've registered my business with the tax man
  • I've dealt with 3 challenging individuals
  • I've blogged on average twice a week for a year
  • I've chosen a business name
  • I've read books!
And I'm about to launch my Coaching website - wow - what a 12 months its been.

    Sunday, 8 May 2011

    New Website

    Once again I find myself having to apologise for being a bit neglectful of my blog. Its not that I'm bored of it, its just that I'm having to do so much else.

    The good news is that I know have web pages written and ready to go to support my new coaching practice. I just need to pass them onto my talented husband who will turn them into a website.