We all face challenges in life and in order to succeed and live a fulfilling and happy life, self doubt is one of the biggest challenges we have to overcome. It comes up frequently when I am coaching.
We have both good and bad experiences, however it is common for us to connect those experiences which can support our beliefs about ourselves.
Somehow, our minds tend to engage in self-analysis. (Not bad coming from an analyst by trade) this can lead to all sorts of problems as we travel through life, setting us up not to succeed.
It occurs in all sorts of circumstances, we could be making our way in a career, engaging in relationships with others, and many other scenarios.
Of course, each new transaction with someone else presents exciting new opportunities. Each one unique and unconnected. Yet we still expect to fail. Because we failed previously. Yet still these events are unconnected.
So remember next time an opportunity presents itself that this is the first time. You do not have a history of failure and there are no reasons why you shouldn't succeed.
Remember the expression:
"Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift which is why it is called the present" - unknown
and get stuck in - thousands of people are succeeding everyday, why shouldn't you?